How can I be honest but kind?

9 Tips on How to Be Honest With Someone Without Being Negative

Look at the situation from their perspective before you do anything.
Ask yourself if this is something that really needs to be said.
Choose your words carefully – say it to yourself before you say it out-loud.
Don’t insult, blame, exaggerate, or be judgmental.
Do it in private.
Always offer a solution.

Is kindness a lie?

“If to be truthful is to be cruel, then lying must surely be an act of kindness. And so, kindness is a lie.”

What are good reasons to lie?

Numbers don’t lie

To avoid being punished.
To obtain a reward not otherwise readily obtainable.
To protect another person from being punished.
To protect oneself from the threat of physical harm.
To win the admiration of others.
To get out of an awkward social situation.
To avoid embarrassment.

What defines dishonesty?

Dishonesty is to act without honesty. It is used to describe a lack of probity, cheating, lying, or deliberately withholding information, or being deliberately deceptive or a lack in integrity, knavishness, perfidiosity, corruption or treacherousness.

Is deception and lying the same?

Deception refers to the act—big or small, cruel or kind—of encouraging people to believe information that is not true. Lying is a common form of deception—stating something known to be untrue with the intent to deceive.

How do you tell if someone is deceiving you?

A few of the potential red flags the researchers identified that might indicate that people are deceptive include:

Being vague; offering few details.
Repeating questions before answering them.
Speaking in sentence fragments.
Failing to provide specific details when a story is challenged.

What is the Pinocchio Effect?

When a person lies they suffer a “Pinocchio effect”, which is an increase in the temperature around the nose and in the orbital muscle in the inner corner of the eye. In addition, when we perform a considerable mental effort our face temperature drops and when we have an anxiety attack our face temperature raises.

Why does my friend always lie?

It’s hard not to take being lied to personally, but pathological lying isn’t about you. The person may be driven by an underlying personality disorder, anxiety, or low self-esteem. When talking to the person about their lies, remind them that they don’t need to try to impress you.