Can you validate yourself?
Self-validation is accepting your own internal experience, your thoughts, and your feelings. Self-validation doesn’t mean that you believe your thoughts or think your feelings are justified. If you fight the thoughts and feelings or judge yourself for having them, then you increase your emotional upset.
How do you validate someone?
When you validate an emotional response, the first step is to acknowledge the emotion that the other person is having. This can be hard if the other person has not clearly communicated their feelings, so you may have to either ask them what they are feeling, or guess and then ask them if you are right.
What is validation in a relationship?
Validation in your relationship is the same idea. It means that when your partner tells you about their day, or shares their feelings, you stay with them in the moment, honoring their experience. It’s a way of showing you understand and accept their thoughts and feelings just as they are.
What does it mean to seek validation from others?
Seeking validation for affirmation is needing someone to tell you that you are okay and life is okay and everything else going to be okay. Sometimes this is secretly a desire for approval of wrong choices, feeling that if someone else thinks this choice is okay, then it must be the right thing.
Why do I feel I need validation?
That’s why seeking validation is the root of insecurity. It’s not just thinking that you’re not enough or that you’re not worthy. Those two false beliefs will derail you on their own. But the root of the problem is the idea that someone else telling you that you’re good enough or worthy will make it so.
Why do I need validation from my husband?
If you demand that your partner agree with and/or appreciate your thoughts, you’re basically telling them to lie or to change their mind Ariadna Peretz. Peretz also believes that validation is a good way to reinforce or strengthen a relationship.