Why are funerals important in Judaism?
A traditional Jewish funeral occurs within 24 hours of the time of death as it is a sign of respect to the deceased. Jewish funeral services can take place in a variety of places, including: a synagogue, funeral home or graveside. The body is buried in a simple casket that has not been ordained.
Why are there no flowers at a Jewish funeral?
Jewish faith does not use flowers out of respect. It is believed that everyone deserves an equal funeral free from expressing wealth. Flowers are feared to make people believe that they are of higher classes. No flowers are present at all on the graves.
What do you wear to a Shiva?
There is no specific dress code. Dressing respectfully is a must though. This means women should be conservative and men should wear long pants. If Shiva is being held in an orthodox home, many women will be dressed in long skirts below the knee and long sleeve shirt.
Should I wear black to a Shiva?
Making a shiva call isn’t going to be a party in any sense, but neither will it be a dark, depressing visit. In that vein, there is no requirement to wear black, nor do you need to worry if your outfit is a little too colorful. The key for dressing to go to a shiva is to be respectful of the family in mourning.
What happens at a shiva service?
During the period of shiva, mourners remain at home. Friends and family visit those in mourning in order to give their condolences and provide comfort. The process, dating back to biblical times, formalizes the natural way an individual confronts and overcomes grief.
What do you say during Shiva?
WHAT TO SAY
- “I am very sorry for your loss.” (Simple is sometimes the best)
- “May his memory be a blessing.”
- “We loved her and she will be missed.”
- “I am here for you if you need someone to listen.”
- “He was very important to me.”
- “I learned so much from her.”
- “Our whole community has suffered a loss.”
What is a shiva candle?
Shiva, meaning “seven,” refers to the seven-day period of formalized mourning by the immediate family of the deceased. Then, a family member lights the shiva candle, provided by the funeral home, which burns for seven days and serves as a mark of respect for the deceased as the flame is symbolic of the soul.