Why is it so hard to take your own advice?

Why is it so hard to take your own advice?

Really, it’s a simple matter of perspective. It’s hard to be your own adviser because you’re too close to your own problems, and so your emotions are more likely to cloud your judgement. It’s much easier to identify the most rational option, on the other hand, when you’ve got an outsider’s vantage point.

What do you do when someone doesn’t take your advice?

When someone rejects your advice, communicate the notion of you trying to help them notwithstanding whether they label your advice as right. Do so by fully letting go of your advice, which they rejected, and hop on the train they’ve elected to take themselves.

Why should you listen to other people’s advice?

By listening to someone and actually taking their advice, you not only get good results but you also get to contribute to the joy of another person. I’ve yet to meet an absolute perfectionist whose life was filled with inner peace. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other.

Is it bad to give advice?

Giving advice is a selfish thing to do, something we try because we like to feel useful, even when it’s detrimental to the person. All it does is show you haven’t really listened to them, and that you’re more eager to talk about what you think and feel than help them with their thoughts.

Why is advice bad?

Giving advice stops others from learning and growing. You are assuming that they don’t have the personal resources to find answers within themselves. This stops the other person from taking the time to look within and listen to themselves, or even find their own resources at all.

How do I stop giving advice?

Steps to Not Giving Advice

1. Ask them Questions about the Problem and their Feelings.
2. Point out Positive Qualities about them to build their confidence in decision making.
3. Share Stories only to offer a perspective or help them feel they are not alone.
4. Do Not make the story about yourself.
5. Offer Options.

How do you shut down a nosy question?

10 assertive tips on dealing with nosy questions

1. Go with your gut.
2. Don’t be rude back.
3. Use “I” statements.
4. Find out more if appropriate.
5. Say how you feel about being asked or about giving the information.
6. Depersonalise your answer.
7. Express your feelings if you want to.
8. Move them on.

How do you politely tell someone not to be rude?

Strategy 3: Be calm and assertive

1. When you say…
2. When you say things like that I don’t want to continue the conversation.
3. I need you to speak in a more respectful way.
4. I am finding your words hurtful and I need you to consider my feelings.
5. I will give you time to calm down.
6. I find that really rude, and it’s not okay.